Why we should start an “I’ll ride with you” day


It has been an emotional time for Australians recently with the siege in Sydney . I’m deeply affected by what has happened (as I am sure others are too). I cried reading an article about Katrina Dawson, her life was just beginning with a young family and a beautiful career ahead of her. Goosebumps are crawling on my skin as I write this. I am moved by the unity and am very proud to be an Australian.

It makes me sad and angry that there are people who feel compelled to do this to each other. Why and where does this come from? There must be story behind all of this, something must have happened in their lives to cause this to occur. You’re not born hating another… they must have learnt it from someone, somewhere, somehow. If you can learn to hate, you can learn to love.

Love is in all of us. We all need love in our lives, why not give love first? You can’t control another persons reaction but you can control your actions. If you want love, then give love. If each of us showed a bit of compassion and give, may be another persons perception of the world changes that little bit too. It might give them a glimmer of hope that there is love in the world and they are worthy of it.

Love is powerful. It overcomes fear. Everyone wants to be loved, wants to belong. People seek out people, groups, places where they can belong and it may be misdirected. We are all humans at the end of the day. We all need to eat, sleep, breathe. May be, just may be, if we all opened our hearts, give a little, love each other this may change the world slowly. There is more courage and strength in vulnerability. We will be making ourselves vulnerable but remember it will make us stronger.

Why not start today? Just a simple hello or smile, talk to someone on the bus, train or on the street. This might have a huge impact on their lives. You never know. If we have a day dedicated to this, perhaps more people will be open and receptive of this idea. It wouldn’t be so scary for everyone to try it. We would make it easier for each other to reach out and help one another. Share some love and perhaps be that glimmer of hope to someone.

By the way, I’m not justifying their actions what happen was horrific and unacceptable. I’m just figuring out how we can become stronger and commemorate the lives that have been lost. Their courage and lives will be remembered and have a positive affect on the world, rather than being a victim. I hope people see it that way. I didn’t mean to start the idea to ride a wave or gain any publicity. I want to do it to help others find a positive way forward from this.

Let’s use this to strengthen us as a nation and humanity. That’s why we should commemorate this day – share the love and compassion.

 

For my birthday


Hey beautiful family and friends,

I’m so excited about my upcoming Superhero Birthday party. Thank you to my wonderful girlfriends – Elise, Sanu, Sarah, Helen and J (Elise’s gem of a husband) for organising the whole thing for me.

It’s a surprise in a non-surprise party! I have no idea what to expect and feel like a little kid going to a candy store. 🙂

For birthday presents, I would love either a donation to Aid Asia Initiative or contribution on my amazing climb and holiday.

>> For Aid Asia Initiative Donations, an automated receipt will be sent to you.

>> For my trip, click here.

 

What would you like to read about?


Only 28 Days to go before the big climb and there is so much to do before I go on leave. I have a back log of posts I want to write and a stack of photos to share, just not enough time to write it all.

So I’ve started this list so that I remember what I want to write about and think about when I’m climbing. Help keep me mentally occupied on that long journey to the top, so please let me know what you’d like to hear about after my climb. 🙂

Before the Climb

Below is a list of blogs I plan on writing when I’m on the flight, stop over in Hong Kong and when I’m relaxing in Chamonix before the climb. Then I’ll compare them with my actual experience.

  • Why did I choose Mont Blanc?
  • Basic things we take for granted – going to the bathroom, sleeping without showering, sleeping conditions
  • What to take on the climb – clothes, protection, food
  • What I have discovered and learnt about my body. Muscles, sweat, pain and healing.
  • Type of training I did for mountaineering and altitude.
  • Should I or shouldn’t I take Altitude Sickness tablets (forgot what they are called and it’s too cold to get up and find out). 🙂
  • The power of sharing your journey. Why I started “Journey of Hikes” Facebook group.
  • Being vulnerable and open to the unknown
  • Amazing people I have met on this journey.
  • Why do people climb mountains? What is the fascination?

After the Climb

Things to think about when I’m putting one foot in front of the other in freezing temperature.

  • Read all posts before the climb and compare the differences.
  • What did it feel like making it to the summit?

Leave a comment on anything you would like me to write about or even think about when I’m climbing up the mountain. What do you want to hear about after my climb? I can keep it in mind when I’m climbing. I’m sure I’ll have plenty of thinking time strolling up that mountain. 🙂

Let’s start from the very beginning, it’s a good place to start.


Yep, I’m channelling Sound of Music. It has nothing to do with the climb, but it’s my favourite movie and I will be going on a sing-a-long tour in Salzburg after this adventure. I can’t wait! 🙂

As I continue to research about Mont Blanc and try to visualise myself on that climb, I will share with you what I find out and what I think it will be like. It will be interesting to see how this differs to the actual experience and when I reflect on this amazing adventure.

Have I done anything like this before?

Nope, never. I have never climbed a mountain this high, been at this altitude, used ice crampons or ice axes, weathered -10C or -25C, gone to the toilet on a mountain in freezing temperature and being roped up or take out insurance outside the normal travel insurance. There are a lot of unknowns for me on this journey, but that’s what excites me the most and I intend to prepare myself as much as I can to make it to the summit.

What’s my parents think about all of this?

Initially they freaked out and tried to convince me not to do it, but they came around. It’s been interesting to see how my mum and dad both come to terms with this in their own way. My dad left the room for a little while, came back and asked me to put together a will before I leave and he bugged me for weeks before I finally put one together. Mum on the other hand is more laid back, I know she is worried but she keeps it to herself.

After sending them an email with the details of my climb and what was involved; dad asked me take time off work and train as much as I can and mum wrote back “Very good, you can make it. Well done.” This is the first time ever that this has happened. In the past, I’ve always been met with a lot of resistance and questions when I challenge their ‘norm’, which I was always prepared for, but this time it was different. I guess the scale of what I am doing is far greater than anything I’ve done before and they know what could happen.

I love them both dearly and I will be taking them on this journey with me. Giving them comfort I will be well prepared and they have nothing to worry about.

What’s been the reaction so far?

It’s been a mixed bag.  Most of my friends think I’m crazy, but not surprised. The reaction on their faces when they read about my climb and what’s involved has been so amusing. I wish I took a photo of their reactions. It’s priceless. Others have been amazed and inspired. I have received so many beautiful messages “you are awe inspiring”, “wow, you’re amazing”, “we are blown away by your energy and commitment” (referring to my charity and climbing to inspire the children).

A couple of my friends showed me some National Geographic videos of Everest, hoping to freak me out and change my decision. It ended up working in reverse. The adventure and risk got me even more excited about the whole thing. I actually enjoy watching these types of videos to mentally prepare myself or the worse case scenario.

How did I decide how to train?

I decided to enlist help from the experts. One trainer has experience mountaineering and is preparing my muscles for endurance and the other trains me at altitude within an altitude training chamber.

Even though you don’t need to be really fit to climb Mont Blanc, I love to exercise anyway and am seriously training for this. Read about my training schedule here. I want to leave no stone unturned and have the best chance of reaching the summit. So much is riding on reaching the top in particular the opportunity that it presents for Aid Asia Initiative and our cause.

In a future blog I’ll reflect on what the journey has been like so far, what I have learnt along the way.

It feels like we’re in heaven


Date: Sunday 20 July 2014

Time: 8:30am

Where: Berowa Waters, Sydney

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Training for Mont Blanc has given me so much already.

It allowed me to discover beautiful places around Sydney, given me the opportunity to reconnect with nature, myself and with new and old friends. Every week, we’re inviting someone new to the group who love to explore too. It’s all about having fun, encouraging each other, learning from one another and just enjoying the fresh air and nature.

It’s amazing what you find out about someone after 5 hours. You feel like you have always been friends, even though you might have only met that day. Our hikes have turned in to counselling, event planning, venting and brainstorming sessions. I am so grateful for their support and encouragement…even though they think I’m crazy. 🙂

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Left to right: me , Trace (philosopher), Vickie (first time hiking), Tina (my second cousin) and Anna (from Poland and new to Sydney).

As part of my training program, I hike every weekend for at least 5 hours with a 8kg rucksack. My goal is to build up as much endurance in my legs as possible before I go. I prefer to hurt now than on the mountain.

We set out to complete the Oxfam Trail from Berowa Community Centre to Bobbin Head, met at Empire Marina Bobbin Head and took one car to the starting point. With my 65litre rucksack, I am now officially the sherpa. By the end of the hike, everyone is so tired we just want to go home and I always end up with a pile of jackets at my place!

Going along Benowie Walking track and the Great North Walk, there is a breath-taking view of the Berowa Creek. It was so peaceful, there was no sound of cars, boats or people (except for us) just the sound of nature. Gazing out in to the distance, I felt so lucky to have this so close by and couldn’t believe I hadn’t been out here before.

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The trail was quite steep and there were plenty of stairs (perfect training)! My legs were burning, sweat was running off my forehead by the time we reach the top, but it felt good.

One of our new hikers had a sore knee and in an instant we all turned in to doctors. 🙂 We found her the best branch to use as a walking stick and slowed down the pace. I was so proud of her for making it to the end. She pushed through and had a lot of fun.

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After 3 hours of hiking, we took a break and Anna pulled out a whole packet of cookies! Yummo! Exactly what we need at that time…well.. until half of them ended up in the pond (which I forgot to take a photo of). It’s funny what 3 hours of hiking does to you…

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There was a moment on our hike where the clouds parted and the sun streamed through the trees. The bush around us was bathed in warm light. Without talking, we just stopped and soaked in the beams of light that filled the air. It was magical. As we got walking again, Tina summed it up beautifully…  “it feels like we’re in heaven.”

 

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The moment of heaven. I am hopeful that Mont Blanc will be just as magical and kind to me in 6 weeks.

Mont Blanc rises 4,810 m above sea level


Schedule of the climb

Where Chamonix, France
Details Day 1: Ascend to Chabod Hut 2750m, 900m ascent for 2 1/4 hours.
Day 2: Demanding Day. Ascent Gran Paradiso (4061m, picture on the right below) 1300m of ascent over 4-5hours before retreating to Vittorio Emmannuelle hut (2275m).
Day 3: Recovery Day. Technical training and descending to Chamonix.
Day 4: Moderate Day. Ascend to the Tete Rousse hut (picture in the middle)
Day 5: Demanding Day. Very early start to the summit.
Day 6: Easy Day. Descent to the valley with an optional rock climbing or try and via ferrata.

What is involved in preparing for the climb?

Preparing my body for 6 days of mountaineering, walking on snow, narrow paths, ice climbing and axe training.

Fast facts, 4 months of training equates to

  • 80 hours of strength and cardio training
  • 40,000 steps, that’s just on the hikes
  • Run 448 kilometres
  • 1440 push ups (on my toes)

Train with experts

  • 2 trainers are helping me prepare for the climb:
    • One specialises in mountain training, strength, core stability and endurance.
    • Other specialises in Altitude training. Preparing my body to handle the altitude.

My training schedule

Every morning I’m up at 5:30am and training by 6am.

Day Training
Monday 1 hour of Strength Training. This involves weighted squats, lunges, bench press.
Tuesday 1 hour of Cardio training in the Altitude chamber. This involves running or cycling.
Wednesday 1 hour of Strength and Core Training.
Thursday 1 hour of Cardio training in the Altitude chamber.
Friday 1 hour of Strength Training.
Saturday 1 hour Strength Endurance (stairs) and Core Training.
Sunday 5 hour hike with plenty of stairs or ascents.

Mental training and preparation

Visualising myself on the mountain and all the possible situations:

  • Going to the toilet roped to 2 other people in the freezing temperature. There are toilets up there but I’m sure I’ll need to go in between. I’m looking forward to learning all about this.
  • Vertigo, especially in the steep narrow snow capped paths with high winds
  • Falling down the side of the mountain and using the axes to hold me up
  • Handling weather of -10C to -25C, blizzards, rain and sun with minimal protection.

It’s a serious endeavour

  • Situated on the border of France and Italy. It is the highest point in the Alps and European Union and ranked 11th in the world in topographic prominence
  • There are approx. 30 deaths on Mont Blanc every year. With 20,000 climbers that is a mortality rate of 0.15%.
  • Local rescue services perform an average of 12 missions on the busy weekends.
  • Global warming has begun to melt glaciers and cause avalanches on Mont Blanc, creating more dangerous climbing conditions.

Sharing this with my family, friends and work colleagues has really made the magnitude of this climb sink in. Even though it’s not Mount Everest, it’s going to be tough and I’m excited.

I’m excited about the unknown and discovering what the mountain has in store for me, I will be at their mercy but I am hopeful it will be beautiful. By the time I get there, I would have prepared my body, mind and spirit as much as I can. I can’t wait!

Why am I climbing Mont Blanc


I want to inspire children to pursue their dreams. To dream bigger than they ever thought possible and trust themselves. Through any adversity or challenges that they face along the way they are able to overcome them. It’s hard work, they need to plan, practice, train and focus.

I want to set an example for them by living my dreams and showing them that they can live theirs. Conquering a dream starts by building up the required self confidence, courage and motivation.

Aid Asia Initiative’s education program in Kien Giang is the start of this journey. To support this effort we have built a classroom, provided a range of resources, run online lessons and visit regularly to provide on the ground support. Since establishment, the program has become more than just a classroom, it’s a central hub where kids come from all over the community to socialise in a safe and welcoming environment.

Climbing Mont Blanc gives me the platform to raise awareness and the necessary funds for supporting the current program, enabling expansion to other communities and improving our online learning portal.

Help us continue our work by donating at http://www.aidasiainitiative.org or like us on Facebook (https://www.facebook.com/aidasiainitiative).

Why I started Aid Asia Initiative


It was year 2000, Sydney Olympics was on, and my parents had finally saved enough money to take us on our first trip to Vietnam.

I was 16. I was excited to see where my parents had grown up and to visit places that I had only heard about from my grandparents, parents and extended family. We went to Ho Chi Minh City, Soc Trang (6 hours south of HCMC where my mum grew up), Hoi An (my dad’s home town) and Hue. We visited family, friends, tomb stones of our ancestors, rode motorcycles, ate everything we could get our hands on (even street food), went site seeing and experienced everything Vietnam had to offer.

However, one particular visit to a relative who lived in the country had a profound affect on me. This experience changed my perspective on life forever and was the catalyst for my desire to help.

They lived in the deep country side in South Vietnam and the only way to get there was by water. 6 of us piled in to a wooden canoe, powered by a small engine that sounded like it was about to break at any moment. On the way it started to rain and water started to come in to the canoe. My brother and I were frantically scooping water out of the canoe, petrified that we will sink in to a brown river that was used as a toilet, washing clothes, swimming pool… everything and anything. You couldn’t see what was in there. After an hour, we got off the canoe (to our relief) and was taken by motor bikes to my relatives place.

We arrived at a small 4 metres x 4 metre cement home, next to a large rice paddock. Inside, there was one wall separating the lounge to the kitchen and a small bathroom area where the walls did not reach the top. The floor and walls were cement, they slept on wooden slats and did not have tables or chairs, water was from the river and food was mainly rice. It was the home for 5 people; my aunt, uncle and their 3 children.

There were two moments that made me realise how lucky I was to live in Australia.

First moment, was when I had to do a ‘number 2’. You couldn’t use the bathroom in the house because it was just a drain. I had to go out to the lake, where there was a wooden platform with a hole and fish flapping in the water below. They tried to cover it for some privacy, but the material had eroded and you were in full sight. That was an experience…

Second moment, was watching my cousin working in the rice fields on a water buffalo. I remember my dad telling me that they didn’t have enough money to send my cousin to school so he had to work to make money for the family. Money from the rice they produced was their only source of income and it was too risky to have him attend school rather than tending to the crops. He was only 12 years old.

At 12, all I had to worry about was doing well at school and everything else was provided. I didn’t have the responsibility of earning money to survive or having to worry about where my next meal would come from. This gave me a new appreciation for everything I had in Australia. I felt so lucky to have access to clean water, a flushing toilet, a comfortable bed, clothes for all seasons and food.

I made a promise to myself that day. I promised that I would work as hard as I possibly could to make enough money to help them one day. 

I always studied hard at school, but after this trip I was even more focussed. Nothing distracted me, I still played soccer at lunch and hung out with my friends on the oval. I was dubbed ‘ice queen’ because I wasn’t interested in boys back then. I found myself in the library during breaks and spending my afternoons studying. I was a geek and I loved it.

I did very well at school. I was able to do anything I wanted at university and chose to study Information Technology because I loved coding. I was on scholarship and was offered a job from the first day of university. I was paid to go to university, it was my dream. I could finally start helping my parents and start savings to help others. Whilst I was still learning the ropes at work, I donated money to different causes. It wasn’t until February 2012 when I was about to go to Vietnam on a charity trip did a colleague suggested raising money. In one week, we had organised a bake sale and raised $3000.

On my return, my work colleagues encouraged me to consider starting my own charity. I didn’t want to create another charity and tried to find one that had a similar objective, but I couldn’t. After 6 months of searching, I decided it was time to start one. I had no clue how to start one, but I did it anyway and this was when Aid Asia Initiative was born.

You’re more beautiful than you think.


I almost cried watching this video, watching the women’s emotion on their faces and in their body language when they saw how they viewed themselves compared to how others saw them.

It made me realise how critical we are of ourselves. Not just women but men as well and the impact on our self-esteem. Each and everyone one of us has so much to offer to this world. We need only look past ourselves to realise this. I say this with a heavy heart, because I know I get trapped in to this black hole too and don’t realise it.

Remind others how special they are

That’s why I have added this clip to my blog, hopefully in days, months and years to come I will continue to remember how beautiful I am (even writing that feels weird) and to remind other people around me how special they are.

Don’t judge, your words are powerful. It could change the course of someone’s life.

Someone dear in my life pulled out a cube wrapped in paper with a poem stuck on top and placed it in my hand.  From memory the poem read: “Whenever you’re feeling lonely or ever feeling blue, you only have to hold this rock and know I think of you.”.

He said “This got me through the tough times and gave me hope. It was something you gave me 10 years ago.” I didn’t realise how something so small could have such a huge impact, but it did. This changed me and from that day onwards, everyone I met – good or bad – I try to make their day a little brighter.

If anyone is reading this, I would love to read about your experiences.

 

Finding my strengths – Part 3


>> Finding my strengths Part 2: Achiever

Strength #2: Strategic

What does it mean?

People with a ‘Strategic’ strength create alternative ways to proceed, according to Gallup Strengths Finders. Faced with any given scenario, they can quickly spot the relevant patterns and issues.

Specifically to my assessment, the following traits makes me stand out:

  • Viewed to be an innovative and original thinker.
  • Fixing people and things ranks in my top half of favourite activities.
  • Identify problems that people fail to see.
  • You study everything involved in a situation and conceive entirely new ways of seeing or doing things.
  • Your inventive mind generates more possibilities that you can handle or fund.

What can I do to leverage this?

  • Take time to reflect about a goal until all the related patterns and issues emerge. This is essential for my strategic thinking.
  • I love to find solutions when others are convinced there is no other way. I should try to become known as someone to consult with when stumped by a particular problem, issue or obstacle.
  • Get involved at the front end of new initiatives or enterprises. I am innovative yet procedural which are critical to the genesis of a new venture, keeping out of the tunnel vision.
  • Trust my intuitive insights as often as possible. I may not be able to explain them rationally but my intuitions are created by a brain that instinctively anticipates and projects. Have confidence in these perceptions.

Don’t forget to:

  • Help others  understand that my strategic thinking is not to belittle others, rather it’s a natural propensity to all facets to consider all options objectively.

My commitment

It’s taken me months to really understand this about myself. Reflecting and observing my behaviours in the work place after reading this has helped me identify how this has played out for me.

  • I always wondered why I was always put in to a role or area that was relatively undefined. My last 3 jobs have been offered to me, and each time my mandate has been very broad with minimal existing infrastructure e.g digital marketing for a financial advice business, where there was no email platform, online tracking, SEO, SEM for our campaigns! Actually I am 7 weeks in to a new role now with a goal to ‘improve the client experience’ with the service and operational capacity of the business.

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  • Take the time to fully reflect or muse about a goal that you want to achieve until the related patterns and issues emerge for you. Remember that this musing time is essential to strategic thinking.
  • I am extremely thorough with my approach to everything. Planning and thinking about all the possible outcomes, issues, risks and mitigations. This could be a good or bad thing. Good to be prepared. Bad when it turns in to analysis paralysis.

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So what does this mean for me now and in future…I’m not 100% sure yet, but I will start to:

  • Share my ability to seek solutions in challenging situations.
  • Establish my identity as the person to get involved at the start of an initiative or when there are any obstacles or even in planning.
  • Refine my strategic thinking capabilities at work and for Aid Asia Initiative (a charity I have co-founded)

One clear thing I am taking from this is to help others understand my strategic thinking and that it’s not an attempt to belittle them.  My demeanour and approach is very humble most people have not taken offence to my comments, but I can now see how one could.

It’s exciting to  be able to understand the reasons behind my actions and how I can harness this more effectively in future. Finally, it all makes sense now. My best discovery yet! 🙂